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Hui Wen Tong
May 24, 2021
Attachment and its Impact on Sense of Self
"Look at how a kid behaves and you'd know how his/her parents are like." "What an unbelievably rude person! He must be raised in a barn!"...
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Hui Wen Tong
May 9, 2021
What's in a name? That which we call Counselling
We take paracetamol for headaches, eat when we need food, sleep when we are tired and see a doctor when we are unwell. Why can't we see...
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Hui Wen Tong
Apr 2, 2021
Calming the Anxious Mind
We all react to things or people around us differently. What can be stressful for one person might be a storm in a teacup for another and...
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Hui Wen Tong
Oct 3, 2020
Tantrums - When Our Patience is being Tested
In my previous article, I wrote about why babies cry. This article is on why kids throw tantrums. A tantrum is an emotional outburst, as...
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Hui Wen Tong
Aug 20, 2020
A Matter of Perception
Perception is our interpretation of what is presented to us. As shown in the picture above, both perceptions (the circle and the square)...
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Hui Wen Tong
Aug 2, 2020
Selfless vs. Selfish
Has anyone ever told you that you are too nice? Or that you put others before yourself a little too much? It can be hard to find that...
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Hui Wen Tong
Jul 11, 2020
What Not to Say to a Struggler
There is a suicide in every 40 seconds, according to World Health Organization. Sometimes, it is obvious when someone we know is...
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Hui Wen Tong
Jun 26, 2020
Being Different Is Not Wrong
Previously, I wrote about unmet universal human needs and one of them is a sense of Self. Accepting and being accepted for who we are is...
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Hui Wen Tong
Jun 8, 2020
Universal Human Needs
Have you ever wondered why babies cry? Crying is a baby's first language to communicate their needs such as: “I’m hungry.” “I’m scared.”...
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Hui Wen Tong
May 27, 2020
Why Counselling
In my previous article, I wrote about some of the common misconceptions about people who struggle with mental health issues. Counsellors,...
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Hui Wen Tong
May 18, 2020
Break The Stigma
I was tutoring a child one Sunday when her mother walked into the room and asked me to leave after learning that I worked as a...
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Hui Wen Tong
May 8, 2020
Coping with Uncertainty
The outbreak of the novel coronavirus, 2019-nCoV, has everyone on high alert. While we have faced the pandemics such as swine flu (H1N1)...
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Hui Wen Tong
May 8, 2020
Going with The Flow
I once had a client who described the feeling of anxiety as "worrying over an important exam that doesn't exist", and an anxiety attack...
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Hui Wen Tong
May 7, 2020
Being "Present"
This falls under one of my job scope. What does being present mean? I like to define being present as having an open mind, attitude and...
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Hui Wen Tong
May 7, 2020
On Accepting Others
Do we see people for who they really are? Or do we view them though spectacles tinted with our own interpretations and expectations? Do...
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Hui Wen Tong
May 7, 2020
Possible Ways to Re-Know Ourselves
I used the adjective ‘possible’ here to suggest that it is possible but not guaranteed. And as counselling goes, it is only helpful if...
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Hui Wen Tong
May 7, 2020
Who Am I?
Numb. Empty. Alone. Lost. These are the words I often hear from clients struggling with their emotions. They find it hard to put their...
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