The Illusion of Emotional Safety: Unmasking Avoidance, Withdrawal, and Aggression
Feeling physically and emotionally safe is a fundamental human need. Physical safety is self-explanatory, while emotional safety refers...
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Hui Wen Tong
Apr 24, 2023
What does Processing Experiences Mean for PTSD Patients?
I am fascinated with how the human brain works, especially when it comes to painful experiences. I read an article today that piqued my...
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Hui Wen Tong
Mar 21, 2023
How to Stop Self-Sabotaging
In the vernacular of therapy, self-sabotaging means not choosing yourself, or not prioritising your own betterment. In this article, I'll...
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Hui Wen Tong
Mar 15, 2023
We are all addicts in one way or another.
Addiction is often viewed as self-destructive behavior, one that is characterized by a loss of control over substance use. However,...
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Hui Wen Tong
Feb 28, 2023
What is Love?
Whether it’s a philosophical question or a romantic sentiment, the concept of love has been pondered throughout the ages. It is something...
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Hui Wen Tong
Feb 23, 2023
Exploring the Advantages of Transactional Relationships
Human relationships are complex and multifaceted, and they often involve some degree of transaction. A transactional relationship is one...
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Hui Wen Tong
Feb 1, 2023
Attachment Theory
Attachment theory is a psychological model that describes the nature of emotional bonds between individuals and the ways in which these...
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Hui Wen Tong
Nov 10, 2022
Fighting Anxiety by Not Fighting It
An anxious brain is healthy and a very protective brain because you might have experienced hurt or some sort of trauma in the past and it...
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Hui Wen Tong
Sep 18, 2022
Being Hard on Yourself
“Why are you so hard on yourself?” That was what my client’s manager asked my client, and that’s how she ended up on the couch – to...
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Hui Wen Tong
Aug 28, 2022
Catastrophizing - A False Sense of Control
“Our mind is not our friend,” half-joked my partner-in-crime one day when we discussed our case study. Our primitive brain is a...
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Hui Wen Tong
Jul 6, 2022
Virtual Confidence versus Confidence in Person
“How is it possible that I struggle to carry a conversation in person when I am so confident talking behind a screen?” This is a common...
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Hui Wen Tong
Jun 21, 2022
How to Communicate Better
One of the top five reasons why people come for therapy is to learn how to express themselves and communicate better. Nowadays, a smoke...
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Nachum Kaplan
Sep 7, 2021
The Trauma of Moral Injury
Trauma takes many forms. Some such as Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) have become common terms in recent years, but one kind of...
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Nachum Kaplan
Jul 15, 2021
Step Outside The Box
Personality tests are a common tool in the Life Coaching industry but I don't use them and here are some of the reasons why. Firstly,...
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Hui Wen Tong
May 24, 2021
Attachment and its Impact on Sense of Self
"Look at how a kid behaves and you'd know how his/her parents are like." "What an unbelievably rude person! He must be raised in a barn!"...
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Hui Wen Tong
May 9, 2021
What's in a name? That which we call Counselling
We take paracetamol for headaches, eat when we need food, sleep when we are tired and see a doctor when we are unwell. Why can't we see...
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Hui Wen Tong
Apr 2, 2021
Calming the Anxious Mind
We all react to things or people around us differently. What can be stressful for one person might be a storm in a teacup for another and...
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Hui Wen Tong
Oct 3, 2020
Tantrums - When Our Patience is being Tested
In my previous article, I wrote about why babies cry. This article is on why kids throw tantrums. A tantrum is an emotional outburst, as...
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Hui Wen Tong
Aug 20, 2020
A Matter of Perception
Perception is our interpretation of what is presented to us. As shown in the picture above, both perceptions (the circle and the square)...
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Hui Wen Tong
Aug 2, 2020
Selfless vs. Selfish
Has anyone ever told you that you are too nice? Or that you put others before yourself a little too much? It can be hard to find that...
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